Unloading Your Shopping Cart

As I write this blog, I wonder if you get the full concept of what “Unloading your shopping cart” is all about. First, let me clarify, I am not describing taking a trip to the supermarket and the art of unloading groceries into your car. What I am speaking of is how stress affects your body and ways to cope.

In my book, Women and Business: The Secret World of Lipstick and Power Suits. I explain how stress feels to me and many other women around the world. For example, close your eyes for a moment (of course after you’ve read the next couple of sentences); imagine a woman all decked out in her “Power-suit” and nice designer heels pushing a shopping cart. As she moves through life, she’s picking up junk she finds on the side of the road, painstakingly adding to her existing pile. Eventually, her cart becomes overloaded; all the garbage begins to fall out, to make matters worst; she’s pushing the cart up a hill. Most of us become so consumed with our day-to-day life that we are unable to remove the trash from our minds.

We allow family members, bosses and other situations determine our day. If you would take a second to internalize the situation, you will see your “problem” as a lesson. Most times the solution comes to you by way of inspired thought; if not, the next step is so easy… let the Universe worry about the why’s and what’s. Ask no questions, your job is to pay attention to inspired thought. Giving your problems the Universe shows TRUST. In return, the Universe will bless you with peace, happiness and abundance.

Before I write I always relax by listening to music. This morning I decided to let the songs on my MP3 player shuffle for more variety. As Keri Hilson sang her ballet, I paid extra attention to the lyrics. All I kept hearing is, “This love is taking all of my innergy.” I thought to myself,” This is a perfect example of how low innergy makes you feel!


There have been several times, that I wanted to climb under a rock and hide from the world. The reality of the situation is there is no escape. Can you see how that is impossible? It’s impossible to hide from YOURSELF. Stop exhausting yourself by entertaining “low innergy (i.e. Depression, anxiety, envy or jealousy) and the take first step toward changing your life.

Depression

As women, we are mothers, sometimes fathers, businesswomen, football coaches, teachers… etc. Just as your body gets tired, so does your mind. A common misconception about depression is if someone is suffering from some kind of depression they’re crazy. According to experts, there are 17 million people that suffer from depression each year. Depending on your culture, your odds will double to more than the majority. Over their lifetime 20% of women, experience some type of depression. Surprisingly twice as many women than men experience some type of panic disorder.

Each year more women report feelings of depression and anxiety to their Doctors. Depression and Anxiety has become the pink elephant among most people. Today’s society puts a huge strain on women. Physical appearance did not used to be as important as it is now. Coping is a huge part of progression, not only in your career but in your life as well.

I believe one of the reasons that women fail in their careers is that they refuse to take care of themselves. As I said earlier, you are the most important person. Get your mind right ladies! Until you can handle whatever it is vexing you, you will not move forward. I know it is easier said than done but sweetheart you have to make the choice. No one else can make it for you.

My Situation-For years I suffered from depression. There were days that I could not get out of bed let alone go to work. My depression was so severe that it affected everyone around me. I went to therapist, psychiatrist, and everyone else with an “ist” behind their profession. Medications did not work for me. I did not like the feeling of being medicated. Eventually my problems started to pour into my professional life. I had to make a decision fast. I made the choice to deal with what I was feeling. It was the best choice of my life. After years of being a prisoner of my mind, I decided enough was enough. I knew I wanted to change my life; I just did not have the tools that I needed to break free. I received my first dose of awareness in 2006, with the book, Think and Grow Rich, written by Napoleon Hill. I was so fascinated with the fact that I had the ability to change my life by virtue of positive thinking.

The Decision that Changed My Life

One day, while at local books store, I struck up a conversation with a woman admiring the books the shelf beside me. She began to talk about a movie that had just become available on the internet. The woman went on and on praising the movie, saying it was the best thing that had happen in her life. I listened as she gave a very detailed description of the movie and its narrators. I was surprised to hear, the movie sounded a lot like the book that I was reading at the time. We had a very lengthy conversation, as we spoke more and more people became attracted to our communication. Before we departed, she handed me a folded slip of paper with the web address and insisted that I watch the movie. I opened the piece of paper after I had gotten home that night, the paper read, “Go to www.thesecret.tv to change your life” Once I received my first dose of Metaphysics, I took it and ran with it. The power of intention is a real. If you’re upset about your present situation, change it! You posses the power, but only you can make the choice. Love yourself enough to dismiss “low innergy” Feel good about everything in your life, so you can receive more of that feeling. Once you realize, being peaceful and blissful, is all the universe wants for you; everything else will soon follow.

For those of that have made the choice, here is a word of advise…Patience is a virtue. Please don’t expect a complete transformation of your mind, body and spirit, to happen over night. Remember, you’ve been programmed for years to think as you do. You’re not going to know the answers to every question. You have to recondition yourself and commit to your spiritual development. I have been on my spiritual journey for years and I still have a lot to learn. Truly getting the concept comes from practice.


How to Receive Your Bliss
Two days ago I sat in the car with my teacher/ friend Khayr. We were having a conversation about negative innergy, and how low innergy, affects the people around you. My dear friend said something that really stuck with me. He said, “The only people that can upset me are the ones I love, everyone else gets nothing but sheer bliss from me!” Wow! How powerful is that?

There are things in this world that you shouldn’t even be bothered with. You must first deal with the inner-you before you can attempt to change anything beyond that. There are solutions for everything. You cannot make everyone happy. When you realize that you can not fix everything and everyone, you can exhale and let go. Everyone on this planet has their own lesson to learn. Acceptance will alleviate a tremendous amount of stress from your body. There are things you have to let slide off your back. Refer back to Khayr’s statement above. Why are you giving up your power?

Remember, the purpose of this guide is to give you the facts, not to candy coat things for you. Figuring out your problem may involve really looking deep inside yourself and your past. Take some time to self-assess. Most women do not understand how their problems affect everyone in their household, even their pets. When I went through my episodes, my dog Ashleigh would pay extra attention to me. It was almost like she was watching over me. I thank the Universe for her everyday.

Leaving Your Baggage at the Door

We all have to deal with personal problems. Some of us deal with them on a daily basis; your kids getting in trouble at school, marital problems, car breaking down, or financial problems. The truth is, most of the problems that exist in our lives are a result of decisions we have made. Let me explain- if you know that you car has a problem that needs to be fixed, but you put it off for months, you can’t get mad when your car breaks down. Getting upset is not going to solve the problem. You have to seek alternative measures. Going out in public and being mad at the world is not only unhealthy for you; it is harmful to your business. My adage is “You never know who people are”. You may go into a meeting and come across a person that you cursed out in the grocery store last week. Be mindful when you are in public interacting with people.


Healing Your Body

If you are dealing with stress, the best thing to do is to try relaxation techniques that will calm you. As women, we tend to take on many roles: mothers, wives, doctors, therapists. It is impossible to take care of others if we are neglecting ourselves. Look to Holistic Healing as a natural method. Holistic healing means taking a holistic approach towards treating imbalances in your life. What set holistic healing apart from traditional medicine is health isn’t the main objective. Yes, going to a tradition may be necessary for treating dis-ease in your body. You are probably wondering what dis-ease means. Dis-ease is used by the wellness community to describe an imbalance in the body. Instead of claiming the aliment, holist practitioners, like a client to alter their words to give them more power over their current situation.

Physical illnesses are symptoms of an imbalance that may not have a cause in the physical. Holistic healing deals with the whole person not just certain sections. Holistic healing is really a lifestyle approach. The holistic approach goes far beyond the Mind-Body connection of finding and maintaining wellness. Overall wellness AND "wholeness" is highly valued. All parts of a person's life (physical healing, mental health and wellness, emotional well-being, and spiritual beliefs and values) are considered. Taking a holistic approach involves seeking the tools that will help us attract our desires and find personal power.

Types of Healing Therapies
• Aromatherapy
• Ayurveda medicine
• Natural diet
• Exercise
• Counseling
• Herbal remedies
• Homeopathy
• Acupuncture
• Naturopathic medicine
• Bodywork (reflexology)
• Energy-based therapies
• Prayerful intention
• Chinese medicine (Tai Chi)

My Situation: As I have mentioned before how stress has been a real dilemma in my life. Not long ago I met a person that practiced Tai Chi. I had heard of this form of martial arts before but I didn’t know that it had healing properties. I was very apprehensive at first but I told myself, “The first class is free. If I don’t like it I won’t come back.” I learned to meditate the first day and I must admit I felt a hundred times better. I also learned how to breathe effectively. As my Tai Chi instructor explains, when you don’t breathe effectively it causes you to have anxiety. It can be especially bad for those of us, like me, who talk all the time. Through Tai Chi, I have become well balanced and do not allow small inconveniences to interfere with my happiness and contentment.

Where to Find Help
You may need a coach to guide you through the jungle, if you lack confidence. Juju Mama (http://www.jujumama.com/) has a wonderful program called CN28 (see in 28 days) where she and her husband Rakim help you manifest your goals through encouragement, meditation and positive affirmations. I participated in their program and reached the goals I put into the Universe, you reading this blog is a result of my commitment.

In order, to adequately administer holistic healing you will need to hire a skilled practitioner. There are several ways to find holistic healers in your community. The best way would be to perform a search on the internet. Who you choose is at your discretion; however I recommend Khayr Love for Reiki, Reflexology, Tai Chi, Qi gong and much more, visit his site at http://www.relaxationisthekey.com/, for a detailed description of his services.

In closing- remember, commit to becoming happy. Don’t entertain “low innergy”. Practice being radiant everyday regardless of the situation. What you will find is, you will attract the things you need. Trust in your ability and begin to receive the abundance that is rightfully yours.

Christy is the author of, Women and Business: The Secret World of Lipstick and Power Suits. Women and Business is the first in a series of business books instructing ladies young and old on the importance of self- education, self- respect and self- motivation. For more information please visit www.womenandbusinesslive.com or email info@womenandbusinesslive.com. Women and Business: The Secret World of Lipstick and Power Suits, will available in stores June 2009.